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10 Useless Matters

I found this on Zendra's alter-ego's blog...good one to share:

10 Useless Matters

1. Having knowledge that is not acted upon
   
2. A deed or action that has neither sincerity in it nor follow the way of the Prophet pbuh
   
3. Having money that is hoarded - not enjoyed during this life and will not benefit in the next
   
4. Having a heart that is empty of love and longing for Allah and seeking closeness to him
   
5. Having a body that does not obey and serve Allah
   
6. Loving Allah without seeking his pleasure by obeying him
   
7. Having time and that is not spent in dooing good deeds and seeking forgiveness
   
8. Having a mind that thinks about useless matters
   
9. Serving those who do not bring us those closer to Allah
   
10. Hoping and fearing someone who cannot benefit or harm us
    

The greatest of all the useless matters is the

1. Waste of heart - by preferring this life instead of the next -
2. Waste of time - having incessant hopes and desires

Is our heart focussed on Allah or is it seeking fame and companionship on something else other than the closeness of Allah

Manage our time - especially for Muslim women because women are weaker in faith, women give in to their emotions more, women suffer from loneliness and depression more than men do, women are always seeking love, and looking for the rainbow that may not exist

1. Identify your life-goals - should be specific, documented, set deadlines, short-term goals must jive-in with long term goals
   
2. Plan ahead - set a daily to-do list and review regularly
3. Set prioritise - relieves stress of too little time, focus our energy on the most important things

Islam encourages Muslims to care for time, to utilise time, to not waste our time and holds us responsible for how we spend our time

In Islam time is not money, time is more important than money. How I am spending my time may determine if I even get any money.

The highest and most worthy and most useful of reflection is when it is intended for Allah and the Hereafter.

In this day and age...

this still exists while we carry on happily with our lives:

‘Ray of hope’ that turned out to be a nightmare



KUALA KUBU BARU: We were hit by the stench of faeces and urine the minute we walked into the men’s block at Taman Sinar Harapan located in a secluded area of the town here.

Mr A, a volunteer from a non-governmental organisation who goes to the home every Sunday to clean and feed the residents, opened the locked door at the back of the block and we were stunned by what greeted us.

About 30 stark naked men were inside the room, either lying down or sitting on the wet marble floor. In one part of the room, we saw a pool of blood, still fresh and red, on the floor.

full story here

Experts slam caregivers for chaining mental patients to their beds

PETALING JAYA: Chaining mental patients to their beds and leaving them to run in the nude is sheer abuse and inhumane, says Asean Federation for Psychiatry and Mental Health president Prof Dr Mohamad Hussain Habil.

Perihelion and Aphelion
Credit & Copyright: Enrique Luque Cervigón

Explanation: This year Aphelion, the point in Earth's elliptical orbit when it is farthest from the Sun, occurs tomorrow, July 4th. Of course, that doesn't affect the seasons on our fair planet. Those are determined by the tilt of Earth's axis of rotation and not Earth's distance from the Sun, so July is still winter in the south and summer in northern hemisphere. But it does mean that on July 4th the Sun will be at its smallest apparent size. This composite neatly compares two pictures of the Sun taken with the same telescope and camera on the dates of Perihelion (closest approach) and Aphelion in 2008. The image labels include Earth's distance in kilometers from the Sun on the two dates. Otherwise difficult to notice, the change in the Sun's apparent diameter between Perihelion and Aphelion is clear. The difference amounts to a little over 3 percent.

Authors & editors: Robert Nemiroff (MTU) & Jerry Bonnell (UMCP)
NASA Official: Phillip Newman Specific rights apply.
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& Michigan Tech. U.

Only 10 Ringgit a month...

I would like to highlight this facebook effort started by Nadzrin. A little spare change goes a long way as a collective effort:

Assalamualaikum sahabat semua, Saya menerima email daripada Mohd Fadzli Abdullah Halim dari Shariah Division, Etiqa Takaful Berhad yang menarik perhatian kepada penderitaan Kak Mah, seorang ibu yang mempunyai 10 orang anak. Beliau sangat-sangat memerlukan bantuan orang ramai untuk meneruskan kehidupannya. Saya mengasaskan laman ini untuk menggarap sebanyak mungkin bantuan daripada sahabat semua. Inilah email asal Mohd Fadzli: ------------------------------ "Semoga anda semua sentiasa dalam rahmat dan kasih sayang Allah swt, diperkuatkan Iman serta dipermudahkan segala urusan. Amin Sukacita dimaklumkan bahawa Jabatan Syariah Etiqa Takaful sedang dalam usaha membantu sebuah keluarga fakir dan miskin yang amat memerlukan bantuan. Kami memohon jasa baik dan keperihatinan semua agar dapat membantu meringankan beban kewangan bulanan keluarga ini. Antara bantuan yang diperlukan: 1. Mendepositkan derma bantuan sekurang-kurangnya RM10.00 setiap bulan untuk membantu perbelanjaan harian, perubatan dan persekolahan dengan menggunakan teknologi maybank2u, phonebanking, internet bangking dan sebagainya. 2. Menganjurkan lawatan ke rumah beliau dengan membawa sedikit barangan keperluan harian (Beras, susu, gula, tepung dan sebagainya). 3. Memanjangkan email ini kepada rakan terdekat anda yang boleh membantu mereka." ------------------------------ Bagi yang mampu membantu, jika tidak sanggup RM10 sebulan, RM5 pun boleh, asalkan kita beramai-ramai. Sila sebarkan keanggotaan group ini seluas mungkin. Kak Mah juga pembuat kuih. Jika anda ingin membantu beliau melariskan jualannya boleh juga mengambil tempahan kuih daripadanya untuk majlis-majlis anda, dan jika boleh, tawarkanlah harga yang tinggi. Semoga Allah merahmati anda semua.

Contact Info

Email:
Office:	Shariah Division, Etiqa Takaful Bhd

Maklumat Fakir Miskin – Pemohon bantuan

Ringkasan Maklumat

Nama Pemohon : Salmah Bt Mat Hassan (39 tahun)

Nama Suami : Ibrahim Mohamad (49 tahun)
(Mengalami sakit tulang akibat kemalangan dan tidak mampu melakukan kerja berat)

Alamat kediaman : (untuk dapatkan maklumat ini, sila hubungi nadzrin@gmail.com)

Telefon : (untuk dapatkan maklumat ini, sila hubungi nadzrin@gmail.com)

Bayaran sewa rumah : RM124 (dibayar Baitulmal WP sejak 2004)

Bilangan anak : 10 orang

Umur : 1 – 20 tahun

Bilangan anak tinggal bersama : 8 orang
Bilangan anak berpenyakit serius : 5 orang
Bilangan anak bersekolah : 6 orang

Pekerjaan : Menjual kuih

Pendapatan bulanan : RM500.00 (anggaran)
Perbelanjaan bulanan : RM800.00

Perbelanjaan ubatan bulanan : RM600.00

Jumlah keperluan sebulan : RM1400.00

Catitan

1. Etiqa Takaful Berhad telah mengeluarkan bantuan Zakat berjumlah RM2800.00 untuk membantu keluarga ini pada bulan Jun dan Dis 2008.

2. Satu kunjungan sambil melakukan kajiselidik ke rumah pemohon telah diadakan oleh Ketua dan pegawai Jabatan Syariah Etiqa Takaful pada 27 hb April 2009.

3. Sumbangan derma dari warga Dataran Maybank hasil dari kutipan derma bersempena ceramah umum khas pada 14/4/2009 oleh Dato’ Ismail Kamus berjumlah RM510.00 telah diserahkan sempena lawatan berkenaan.

4. Keadaan kediaman beliau sangat dhaif dan kebanyakkan peralatan di rumah beliau adalah sumbangan jiran dan dalam keadaan menyedihkan.

5. Kehidupan keluarga ini serba kekurangan dan acap kali cuma mampu makan sekali sahaja dalam sehari.

6. Keluarga ini mengalami defisit perbelanjaan sebanyak RM900.00 setiap bulan untuk perbelanjaan harian dan ubatan. Beliau kerap menagih simpati dengan mengunjungi pejabat-pejabat mengharapkan derma untuk menampung keperluan.

Kepada para dermawan, bantuan boleh disalurkan terus ke akaun bank beliau seperti berikut: Maklumat akaun bank : BIMB 0309 0020 1206 25 (atas nama Salmah Bt Mat Hassan)

Baby Killers and Heartbreakers

UTM student found dead after giving birth

JOHOR BARU: A Universiti Teknologi Malaysia student was found dead in her campus dormitory after she had given birth to a baby boy. The baby, whose umbilical cord was still attached to his mother, was also dead.

The 26-year-old fourth-year student, who was unmarried, was found in her dormitory by a warden around 5pm on Monday.

Johor Baru (North) OCPD Asst Comm Ruslan Hassan said initial investigations revealed that the student, who was from Kelantan, had been dead for more than two days.

“We believe she died after giving birth.

“However, we are not ruling out the possibility of a criminal element in her death,” he said.

He said the victim’s partner could be a fellow student.

“The bodies have been sent to the Sultanah Aminah Hospital for post-mortem,” he said.

ACP Ruslan urged anyone with information to contact the police hotline at 07-2212 999 or the nearest police station.

I teared up reading this while having my tairu vadai, tosei, putu mayam and teh tarik at the totally mandram-infused Thurkah restaurant at Melawati this morning. Hindu idols everywhere... staring down at me, above me, below me and piercing my back...the incense also nearly suffocated me...but I had to have the putu mayam. My regular putu mayam guy went back to India and never came back. Probably driving an SL55 now..maybe the Hindustani Ambassador version.

Anyways, the image conjured up by that piece of news, really got to me. The mum dead, with the baby still attached by its umblical cord, dead too. For two days. What a heartbreaking vision. What pain both went through. Funny how living in a dorm, one can have that much privacy. I never did. No one heard a thing?

Unmarried. Pregnant. Afraid. Not a young girl either. She was 26 for heaven's sake. Where is the father? Where was he in all this? How could a mature woman get herself in such trouble? For sure though, that man will be moving on with his life as if nothing happened. They always do. Its the woman/girl who gets the bad rap. Who has to deal with the consequences of her naivety.

Just yesterday, we had the woman who drowned her baby in a pail of water, after giving birth so bloodily in the toilet of the Wisma Bolasepak Pahang.

Why do we keep seeing this scenario played out over and over again?

I once went to Raudatus Sakinah, a place run by Jemaah Islah. A Muslim group, which took it upon themselves to intervene or at least avoid such scenarios. They take in unmarried pregnant teens and young women who have no where else to go. Instead of ostracizing them, they give them a place to stay, feed them, give them medical care and counselling. Plus religious knowledge. The girls then have an option to keep the babies, or give them up to carefully screened couples and then continue with their studies and lives and dreams, and hopefully become better women and persons after have learnt their lessons and received guidance. Instead of dumping the helpless little beings down toilets or throwing them like a piece garbage onto dumps, into bins.

The visit brought back memories of a friend, who at 18, got pregnant. She thought she was in love, never having experienced such feelings, with a 30 year old man, who knew better. But he lied and sweet-talked his way into her panties through her heart. Women are stupid that way. They only need to hear that they are beautiful, smart and sexy and that someone needs them and can't live without them. Didn't help that the man was a dashing Kevin Costner in An Officer and a Gentleman, plus he had his own ship.

And so, there she was, suddenly slapped into reality the moment she found out she was pregnant. And dumped like a hot potato.

"I don't think that baby is mine," he said, "and (what a shocker for her) I'm married. I can't have anything to do with this or you." Before he left for another port far away.

"But you were the only one I ever knew," she said. As if he cared. First lesson of love she learnt was the worst.

She couldn't tell her mother. Or her father. Or her siblings. She lay there for days in her room, trying to figure out what to do. She wanted to keep it. She was after all going overseas and she could have the baby there. No one would know.

She went to a doctor. To get advice on how to cope with the pregnancy. The kindly doctor, an elderly lady, talked to her. Told her the truth. Of how life would be at 18, with a baby and lost opportunities. How would she care for him/her while studying? In a foreign country all by herself?

She wanted so much to talk to her parents, but couldn't. She couldn't break their hearts. So she broke hers and went for an abortion at a specialist recommended by the lady doctor. She didn't have any money, and I didn't have enough to help her, but the gynaecologist was kind enough to waive the payment.

She cried all throughout the procedure. She felt so dirty and evil and could feel all the other legitimate mums there, at the clinic, looking at this young girl and judging her, knowing what she just did.

She shakily went home in a cab with some money given by the nurse. And cried some more till she fell asleep in her room. Her mother and father blissfully unawares of her pain and predicament.

It was after all her own fault, wasn't it?

She got pregnant all by herself.

Didn't she?

Life went on for her.

What about the others? Who went through the whole term of pregnancy, only to kill their alive, screaming, beautiful, innocent babies after birthing them all alone?

Oh. I just read another story. A form four student.

Her water broke during class yesterday.

No one knew she was pregnant.

Check out this other cat....whiskerslives