Monday, June 1, 2009

The Dar


Residential Architecture

in Islamic Civilization

Dr. Khaled Azab(*)

The subject of Islamic residential architecture is closely related to Islam's teachings on family life and living style as the family is considered the nucleus of society. In Islam, the home's privacy is highly respected and no one is allowed to violate this privacy by peeking at the house interior or its inhabitants. Allah decreed the sanctity of the home and warned against its violation, thus conferring much respect on the abode, not so much for its architectural value as for the people inhabiting it. From an Islamic perspective, the home is a social unit where the structure cannot be dissociated from the family living inside it. In fact, family needs, as they were addressed in Islam, were the factor determining the design of a house. The house was built from inside out and not the other way around. The family defined its housing needs with the help of the builder and according to its financial means. This entailed a true participatory approach involving the house owner and the architect. In general, houses in Islamic architecture appeared simple and similar in design and were often white-washed in a way much similar to the houses in Granada(1).

The Almighty says in the noble verse: 'O ye who believe! Enter not houses other than your own, until ye have asked permission and saluted those in them: that is best for you, in order that ye may heed (what is seemly)'(2). Allah (SWT) thus decrees that permission be sought before entering a house. For such purpose, the wooden doors of old houses were fitted with a knocker. This knocker was often metallic and the most simple in design consisted of a metal piece on which a wooden device was mounted, the two connected to the door with a flexible joint(3). The visitor uses the knocker to tap on the door three times. If permission to enter the house is not granted, the visitor goes away. In modern times, the knocker has been replaced with new and more advanced instruments.

In most old houses, the entrance hallway is laid out at a 90 degree slant to prevent outsiders from seeing into the interior of the house and its inhabitants when the doors are open. Slanted entrances were extensively used in houses in Al Fustat(4) and Baghdad, for example.

The entrance often leads onto a courtyard in the centre of the house. The inner courtyard, considered the main activity hub of the house, serves many purposes, namely:

Climate modification: This consists of obtaining cooler temperatures within the courtyard. This is achieved thanks to the shade cast by the courtyard's opposing walls and the existence of water features which favor humidification -fountains- and therefore a drop in temperature, and the reflection of part of the sunrays, thus reducing the absorption of heat. The presence of foliage is also a factor in ensuring climate mildness. In order to provide proper ventilation while preventing pollution, the courtyard, with its cool temperature serves as a high pressure environment while the outside (street) provides as an outlet area (low pressure). Thus, an air current is always flowing from the courtyard towards the street. This ensures pollution-free ventilation and tempers the internal atmosphere. All of this is made possible through the creation of intelligently placed openings that guarantee proper ventilation of the various sections of the house.

The courtyard also plays an important role in trapping the cool air which seeps during the night through the thick walls and rooftops. This allows a minimal use of external windows, and using the basement passageways which slowly absorb heat and humidity. Furthermore, and as the house is encased on three sides by neighbouring houses, its exposure to sunrays is tangibly reduced. Temperature measurements taken at surface and underground levels revealed temperature differences in some old houses in Al Kazmiyya of up to twenty degrees in some cases. A temperature disparity of 18 degrees was noted between the ground floor and subterranean spaces at noon on a summer day. This temperature difference may vary by about four degrees when the courtyard is covered with a cloth canopy. The thickness of the walls in Baghdadi houses, reaching sometimes one meter, has contributed to increasing the temperature's 'delay', a delay that at times reached 7 to 12 hours(5).

Islamic houses stand out in design and architecture by their tremendous harmony with their environment. This is most noticeable in the orientation of these houses. In Damascus, for example, houses span out in a rectangular shape from north to south with a 20 degree westward incline to ensure that they benefit from the southern sun rays and avoid the northern and western winds(6). The element of sun canopies in Islamic houses was widely used in Egypt and Syria, as well as in Emirati houses. These shamsiyyat consisted of a panel of gypsum inlaid with coloured glass which allows multi-coloured sunrays to filter into houses. In arid Saharan environments such as in the Emirates, it allows light in and prevents dust-laden winds from entering the house(7).

Tranquillity: Noise levels in modern cities are certainly beginning to threaten the psychological serenity and wellbeing of the population. The most important source of noise is the street which is crisscrossed by tremendous numbers of diverse vehicles which make a liberal use of annoying horns. Even in countries where the use of horns is banned, the large number of engines relying on air for their cooling has become in itself a source of disturbance. About 70% of the noise filters into the houses through the openings looking onto the street. Naturally, in the case of courtyard houses where openings onto the exterior are reduced to the minimum, the noise penetration will occur in far lesser extents.

Privacy: The desire for privacy is one of the main motivations behind the choice of the courtyard as a crucial element in Islamic house planning. The in-depth analysis of the social aspects of this planning reveals that the courtyard plays a vital role as the focal point of the family's social interactions. It sets the scene for weaving family bonds and is usually used to host the various social activities, all the while preserving total privacy(8).

House planning in Islamic architecture evolved with time, allowing us to see the clear progression of these houses at the various phases they went through. The various elements of this planning were conceived according to an Islamic vision. Special wings were dedicated to the male guests of the master of the house. These guest-destined wings were often set apart from the remaining units of the house and were known as the salamlek.

In the houses of Ar-Rasheed, a town situated in the north of Egypt, the first floor was usually reserved for guests. The staircase leading to the guest quarters came to an end on the landing of the second floor, and another staircase started from somewhere inside the second floor and other floors of the house. This reflected a desire to isolate the various floors of the house where the master and his family live from the guest quarters. When food needed to be served to the guests in the upper guestrooms, a secret staircase located in one of the rooms was used. This was, for example, the case in Ramadan when the women of the house would place all the food on the table and leave. Once the table was fully laid, the guest was shown into the room where he would see the ready platters without having an inkling as to where the food had come from. Always in Ar-Rasheed, another cunning innovation used was the serving cupboard. This was a revolving cupboard fitted into the wall and made up of two shelves on which the food platters were placed. The cupboard was then turned from the outside into the guest quarters where the house master presents the food set on the shelves to his quests. This ingenuous system was used in two houses of Ar-Rasheed, namely the houses of Baqrawli and Gibri. The system was also used in the West in restaurants and hotels to isolate the kitchen from the dining area. We imitated this idea without realising that it was rooted in our own Arab cultural heritage.

Architects were not oblivious to the fact that women sometimes needed to be present in the reception area for such matters discussed by men as engagements, marriage or inheritance. To cater to this need, overhanging corridors were designed above reception areas and covered with lattice woodwork panels to allow women to hear and see from the openings without being seen. Such additions were widely used during the Mamluke era in Cairo. In some houses, such as that of Al Razzaz in Cairo, special reception areas were reserved for females, thus allowing the mistress of the house to receive her own visitors in all privacy.Pic of The Masharabiya above (for womens' privacy)

Muslims have always been anxious to provide all comfort to their guests, especially the spiritual one. To provide such comfort, old Yemenite houses always contained an architectural element called the 'Mufraj', a terrace on the roof of the house reserved for guests, meetings and leisure. The terrace usually provided a view of the whole town and its scenic surroundings and was also called the 'mandar' or 'mandara'. One specific feature of this place is the large windows which provide the guests with the unhindered visual pleasure of the natural scenery. The mufraj is also referred to as the Large Room because it happens to be the largest room in the house. However, the Mufraj is not always built in the upper levels of the house. Sometimes it is an independent pavilion standing in the garden, overlooking a fountain and surrounded by flowery shrubs and trees.

The Mufraj plays an important part in Yemenite social life. In addition to being a guest house, it also serves as the venue of parties and celebrations. As such, it is the centre of much attention and care on the part of the house master who invests much time and effort in decorating it and adorning its walls with tapestries, plates and other ornaments. Several openings and windows are set into the Mufraj's walls and its walls are embellished with gypsum decorations and a set of upper windows(9).

Emirati houses, particularly those of wealthy people, have a similar element represented in the majlis, a space dedicated to receiving people and which has two doors, one opening onto the street and the other leading into the house(10).

The Muslim builds his house in orde to live in it with his extended family. With this in mind, the house's structure usually allows for horizontal and vertical expansion to accommodate increasing needs that may arise from the marriage of one of the sons or new births, and as allowed by the topographic nature of the flat or mountainous landscape. Islamic houses were characterised by the structure's excellent design functionality. Building materials were derived from the surrounding environment, the dry mud in the deltas of rivers and riverbanks, ceilings made from palm branches or domes from gypsum with marvellous yet simple arches which trap the internal cooling of the house and keep the scorching heat by reflecting sunrays outside, from the coral reefs of the seas, and from silt deposits, while palm trees or wood provide the roofing materials. In mountainous environments, houses were built from rock and were multi-storeyed to counterbalance the lack of space and meet the various and growing needs of the Muslim household for guests, children, spaces for performing religious rites, and for leisure and relaxing in the moonlight under the sky's canopy. In environments that combined mountains and flatlands, the houses were large and horizontally laid out, the walls were from rock and mud and the ceilings were from palm trunks.

The facades of Muslim houses are in most cases exquisitely decorated. However, we will linger at the houses in Sanaa where the facades are so exquisite that one believes them to be the artwork of creative craftsmen. Unlike the facades of houses in other parts of the Islamic world, facades of houses in Sanaa are similar. This similarity is owed to the fact that these facades serve an architectural and artistic function that truly reflects the need they were created to fulfil. No matter how myriad, the shape and diameter of window openings truly express at all times the need for which they were made. The end result is an extraordinary aesthetic display with an explosion of designs and decorations. The facades of Sanaa houses have the peculiarity of false windows which are painted on to look real, particularly in the floors housing the female members of the household. Builders have resorted to this subterfuge to preserve the perfect and beautiful symmetry between the parts of the façade sporting windows and those that do not. Facades in Sanaa present a wonderful amalgam of shapes with small, large, rectangular and circular windows fashioned with a pleasant spontaneity and naivety. The end result is a beautiful display free from dull repetition or disharmony. Above these windows one often sees wooden overhangs shading the window apertures. These are locally known as 'Kunna' and are fastened onto wooden bars affixed to the walls. These canopies protect the adorned windows from rainwater which may spoil them, and add further beauty to facades that are already lavish with geometrical, animal and floral designs(11).

Inscriptions are also a common feature in Islamic houses. One of these famous inscriptions is found in an orphanage. An author writes how he saw, while walking the streets of Cairo, or Al Fustant then, a house of which the door carried the following inscription in verse:

This house of ours belongs to the guest in it

Equal to us is the passer-by

Let the visitor be the master

For in his rule he shall be right and just

From us he shall have all his heart's desire

But not that which the Creator has proscribed

By Allah, we fear neither need nor poverty

For Allah is the One to withhold

And Allah is One to bestow(12)

In the town of Ar-Rasheed, the passageways leading into some houses are decorated with inscriptions giving information about the date of the house construction, as in the house of Al Amseeli, or professing the unity of Allah through the words 'There is no God but Allah' laid out in fine mosaics, as in the house of Makki. The main reception areas may also be decorated with Al Aboussairi's poem 'Al Burda' as in the house of Makki in Ar-Rasheed and the house of Arazzaz in Cairo.

Muslim households paid great attention to another element, namely the rights of their neighbours. This attention became manifest very early in their history. In Al Fustat, a historical incident related to this issue was reported as follows: Khareja Ibn Hudafa was the first person to build a room above his lodgings. Amru Ibn Al Aas reported this to Omar Ibn Al Khattab who then wrote to Amru saying: I instruct you to go into the room built by Khareja, set up a bed (meaning a chair) and have a man of medium height seated on it. If the man manages to see outside through the room window, then demolish that room. Amru did as instructed and since he could not see out of the room's window, he let the room be. This incident meant that whoever built a room higher than his own house had to respect the privacy of his neighbour and not overlook his house. As a result, a rule was adopted in architectural law, namely the rule on the harm of exposure(13).

The patterns of Islamic houses are numerous. We see them in Samarqand, Sanaa, Fez, Ispahan, Baghdad and Cordoba. They are rich with the jewels of Islamic architecture and stand proud as representatives of the civilizational heritage of our Islamic Ummah.


(*) Dr Azab is an academic researcher specialized in Islamic architecture and heads the Information Directorate at the Alexandria Library.

(1) Dr. Yusuf Shukri Farahat: Granada under the Bani Ahmar Reign, page 124, University Institution, Beirut, 1982.

(2) Annur, verse 27.

(3) Ghazi Rajab: Fortress Houses in Yemen, page 61, Sumar Magazine, Vol. 37, 1401AH, Directorate of Antiquities, Baghdad.

(4) Ahmed Abdulrazik: Traditional Houses of Al Fustat, page 9, Arab Museum Magazine, year 4, issue 1, 1409AH, Kuwait National Museum, Kuwait.

(5) Ihssan Fathi and John Warren: Traditional Homes in Baghdad, page 102, Arab City Magazine, issue 17, 4th year (1986), Arab Institute for City Development, Riyadh.

(6) Dr Afif Bahnassi: Greater Syria: A Brief Architectural and Artistic Overview, page 56, Dar Arrachid, Baghdad, 1980.

(7) Bassam Daghestani: Lattice Woodwork, Stucco and Glass in the United Arab Emirates, page 3, a study presented at a symposium on handcrafts in Islamic architecture, Cairo, 1995.

(8) Ali Bassiouni: The Courtyard as an Essential Component in Arab Cities, Arab City Magazine, page 87, Arab Institute for City Development, Riyadh, 1981.

(9) Ghazi Raghab, ibid, page 163.

(10) Dr. Nacer Hussein El Abboudi: Studies in Emirati Monuments and Heritage, page 182, Cultural Academy, Abu Dhabi, 1990.

(11) Abdullah Al Haddad: Sanaa: Its History and Historical Houses, pages 52-53, Heritage Cities Series, Dar Al Afaq Al Arabiyya, Cairo, 1999.

(12) Dr. Khaled Azab: Birth, Rise and fall of Al Fustat, page 167, Heritage Cities Series, Dar Al Afaq Al Arabiyya, Cairo, 1998

(13) Dr. Khaled Azab: Fiqh of Islamic Architecture, pp. 48-49, University Press House, Cairo, 1998

Saturday, May 30, 2009

'Feral' child barks and hisses after being raised as a pet

A "feral" five-year-old girl who hisses and barks after being forced by her family to live as one of their many pets has been rescued from a home in far eastern Russia.
Natasha Mikhailova
Natasha Mikhailova Photo: AFP

According to police, the child, who has only been identified as "Natasha", was so neglected that she had barely developed a human vocabulary, communicating instead through animal noises.

Although she lived with her father, grandparents and other relatives, Natasha was essentially treated like one of a large number of dogs and cats that shared a small flat in the isolated city of Chita.

Welfare officers, who were led to the flat by concerned neighbours, have placed Natasha in an orphanage. Although malnourished and small for her age, she appeared to be relatively healthy considering her ordeal, a police spokesman was quoted as saying by the Interfax news agency.

He said the police were looking for the girl's parents, who are believed to be divorced.

Welfare organisations say that child abuse in Russia is worsening, particularly in the Far East where traditional problems such as alcoholism and unemployment are magnified.

Last week a woman was sentenced to three-years probation by a court in Chita after her baby died of alcohol poisoning. Yelena Sinitsyna admitted to drinking a pint of pure ethanol before breast feeding her four-month-old son.

The consumption of ethanol and alcoholic byproducts such as boot polish, collectively known as "samogon" in Russia, remains common in many parts of the country. Alcohol dependence is believed to be the main cause of low male life expectancy in Russia, which, at just 58, is among the lowest in the world outside Africa.

Activists say they are concerned that domestic abuse could become an even more serious problem as a growing number of Russians lose their jobs.

In the midst of Russia's worst economic crisis in a decade, unemployment has soared above 10 per cent, according to figures released this week which show that over 11 million people are now out of work.

Read "Dogs could have felt empathy for Natasha"

I want to go to these places...

Makkah...


Jerusalem...

The Mediterranean..


The Casbah...


The Tanssili'n Ajer National Park, Algiers...



Esfahan...

Granada...

Damascus...

Andalucia...


Morrocco...
But cuti ni I can only take my kids on a road trip with me best friend Aween ( i hope we don't fight and push anyone out of the car on the way)...to Cherating...dok chalet..right on the beach...InsyaAllah.


Ok la tu...laid back-charm...

Ayah depa pi sini...Linz... (kerja...) Kita dapatlah pi dua kali...Linz ni bagi dia kira macam balik kampung la...macam balik Seri Menanti...lucky man!

Thursday, May 28, 2009

A wife's worth

Man, I'm bone tired today.

I couldn't fight the wave of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder affecting the neighbourhood. I just had to clean my house from top to bottom today. All 3k square feet of it. And I still feel dirty. I feel like the bacterial stain of the community. Because I couldn't reach the roof tiles like the Benggali next door.

As I dragged myself out to drive Maryam to school at 11.30, I stopped to chat with the maid caring for my next door neighbor's 6 year old orphan who lost her Mommy to cancer a year ago.

"Seri, akak dah cuci rumah hari ni...angkat tilam, jemur bantal...akak tak tahan tengok Gurmit satu keluarga hari2 cuci atas sampai bawah, belakang, porch depan, kereta...dengan pokok2 sekali dia basuh (ok, that was an exaggeration)...nak pitam dah...baru akak rasa bersih."

Seri said, "Alah..dia orang empat orang, bolehla...akak satu orang, matilah...nak antar anak lagi, masak lagi, kerja lagi... mana nak buat hari2!"

Oh, thank you Seri! I needed some validation tak I wasn't just terkangkang kat rumah as some think housewives and workers-from-home are prone to do (of course we are more prone to curi tulang...katil kat sebelah komputer kan...btw, matilah aku malam ni tak tidur catch deadline...lost half the day cleaning house).

I used to have a cleaning lady...but decided I was a better cleaner. They piss me off. Adeker basuh bilik air dengan mop aku? Pemalas! Aku berus nak separuh mati, depa main jirus air ngan mop jer... Anak aku pun leh basuh main jirus jer macam tu...

Typical scenario. This latest one is named Rena.

"Rena buat ape tu...ok ker? Senyap jer lam bilik air?" She opens the door..."Eh mana berus lantai akak kasi...?" I ask.

"Err...kat bawah..."

"Habis Rena basuh bilik air dengan apa?"

Then I saw the mop. The same mop she used to mop my rooms...

"Aduh...kan akak kasi berus tu sayang oi?"

I had to feign affection when I really wanted to whack her with the brush...see, a friend of mine is living a miserable life purportedly dirasuk by an Indon jin sent by her maid's uncle or something, due to some altercation/misunderstanding and I wanted to avoid any jin sent to me by this Rena because I hurt her feelings by scolding her for using my bloody mop to wipe my bathroom instead of scrubbing it like I do. I have enough jins and satans working overtime in me and around me. I didn't want an Indon one too. My friend Nadzrin of SilatMelayu.com says there is jin he named Martin Hayes (whoever the hell Martin Hayes is) which followed him home from mine after his senaman tua with me and caused havoc on his side (hey, maybe it's a silat jin lah bro!). Anyway, I hope he doesn't come back. Stay with Nadzrin, Mister Martin.

Where was I?

Oh, ok...cleaners. They made me CLEAN UP AGAIN AFTER THEY LEFT! And I paid them for it too. So better I clean up my mess instead of theirs. DOUBLE WORK TAK?

And it feels so much better too...I admired my house after...I felt like a superhousewife. Thank God I don't have much furniture. Easier work... (I also left out two storerooms full of unpacked stuff and just closed the door...what you don't see won't hurt you...and the windows, and blinds, and dusty fans and lights and curtain and grills and a whole lot of other stuff…ah,..what the hell lah…just focus on the clean parts…good enough for me…Tommy Yew the Down Under Malaysia-mari commentator implied I was jaded...that I see the glass as half empty rather than half full...well he is WRONG, cause I see my house as half clean instead of not at all clean now...see? Not jaded at all, still optimistic!).

I was so tired after that feat…I didn’t cook. Just the rice and fixed a salad…and bought the ikan goreng cili Maryam wanted…unloaded it into my serving plate and pretended I made it.

He said, “Eh,mana pulak datang bawal ni, bukan I beli tenggiri ke semalam kat pasar?"

"Ok,ok…I tak masak hari ni, penat giler la clean house tau…malas nak panggil cleaner tu dah…menambahkan kerja lagi!”

“Oklah…nanti I pay you 50 ye...ganti bayar maid tu..."

WTF!!!!

“Er…are you equating my services with that of the Indonesian cleaner? 50 bucks?”

“Eh , itu above what I give you as allowance what…” he said.

“…what about my driver, cook, nurse, nanny, babysitting, washerwoman services? If you employ one from outside, they charge separately for expenses tau...ni I driver, pakai elaun I juga isi minyak...mana aci! Tak masuk lagi macam2 snacks and side trips budak2 to and from sekolah...I think they eat their pencils at school...hari2 kena beli tau.”

See, people think Islam oppresses women. Fact is, men are responsible for all expenses and whatever the woman earns can't be used by him/towards household expenses. That's HERS. Untouchable. Unless she wants to help out, and that is seen as charity towards her family.

And under the circumstances, I wasn't feeling very charitable. I mean polygamy equals orang kaya giler, kan? No? Yeah. Sadly, not usually the case...heheh.

So, he calculated...and realised, yeah...Allowances almost equalled expenses, meaning much nothing left to expend on MYSELF. Women have many needs y'know. And I've deprived myself out of consideration. I want a monthly massage, a monthly facial (dimanjakan like the other wives I hear about living like tai-tais), my wonderbra (at this age, we need those instead of the jual lambak at pasar malam ones, k? never bought one before, dunno how a wonderbra is supposed to look like...) my MAC powder (my one indulgence), my "close-one-eye-at-the-sight-of-the-kitchen" mamak breakfasts (I want someone to serve ME once in awhile ok? who cares if their nails are grimy...) etc, etc, etc....

I told him..."I don't ask for jewellery, fancy furniture, fancy clothes, fancy car etc etc (bodoh tak?)...My friends' husbands (I normally don't give a hoot what others have, but under the circumstances, I wanted to UNGKIT, cause I am still pissed with him) surprise them with gifts, Chopard necklaces lah, cuti Africa lah lah, ini lah itu lah...and what surprise have I gotten lately? A new wife...you surprised me with a new wife!"

And I laughed. Then he laughed. Cause it was true. Well, at least now we COULD laugh about it, instead of wanting to kill each other. So that's good, I suppose. (I still wish SHE would die though...maybe someone will light a ciggie while filling up at her petrol station...and KA BLAMMMM! while she's busy counting the dough in her office...she loves money...I think she bathes naked in the tub with money...)

"Kalau business ok nanti, I nak Merc SLR...tak peduli..." (tamak tak? well better late than never...if ever lah...just testing him...)

"Mak datuk!!!!" he said. "Mana nak dapat banyak tu!"

Sigh. Aren't husbands supposed to bribe the wives when they get another woman? Go figure.

Alamak...it's 12 midnight...I gotta catch that deadline or my client will will...will...will..kill.....

....ZZZZZZZZZZ

ZZZZZZZZZZZZ
zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.....

zzzzzzzzzzzzz


WAARRRRRGHHHH!!!! MARTIN! MARTIN HAYES! I THOUGHT YOU WERE WITH NADZRIN! WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING BACK HERE!!!


Oh...thank God!

Was just a bloody dream. Too much durian.

Sheesh....

Was-was During Prayer

By Sheikh Muhammad S Munajid

Praise be to Allaah.

Evil whispers during prayer and at other times come from the Shaytaan, who is keen to misguide the Muslim and deprive him of good and keep it far away from him. One of the Sahaabah complained to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) about waswaas during prayer, and he said: “The Shaytaan comes between me and my prayers and my recitation, confusing me therein.” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “That is a devil called Khanzab. If he affects you seek refuge in Allah from him and spit drily to your left three times.” He [the Sahaabi] said, I did that and Allaah took him away from me.

(Narrated by Muslim, 2203)

Proper focus (khushoo’) is the essence of prayer. Prayer without proper focus is like a body without a soul. The following are two of the things that help one to develop the proper focus:

1 – Striving to think about what you are saying and doing, pondering the meanings of the Qur’aan, dhikr and du’aa’s that you are reciting; bearing in mind that you are conversing with Allaah as if you can see Him. For when the worshipper stands to pray, he is speaking to his Lord, and ihsaan means worshipping Allaah as if you are seeing Him, and knowing that even though you cannot see Him, He sees you. Every time a person experiences the sweetness of prayer, he will be more inclined to do it. [?]. This depends of the strength of one's faith – and there are many means of strengthening one’s faith. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Of the things of your world, women and perfume have been made dear to me, and my joy is in prayer.” According to another hadeeth he said, “Let us relax, O Bilal, with prayer,” and he did not say, Give us a break from it.

2 – Striving to ward off the things that may distract you during prayer, namely thinking about things that are irrelevant or distracting. Waswaas affects each person differently, because waswaas has to do with a person’s level of doubts and desires and the degree to which a person is attached to other things or is fearing other things.

(From Majmoo’ Fataawa Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah, 22/605)

With regard to what you say about the waswaas reaching such a great level that you have begun to experience waswaas that makes you think about Allaah in ways that are not appropriate, these are evil whispers from the Shaytaan. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And if an evil whisper from Shaytaan (Satan) tries to turn you away (O Muhammad) (from doing good), then seek refuge in Allaah. Verily, He is the All‑Hearer, the All‑Knower”

[Fussilat 41:36]

Some of the Sahaabah complained about the waswaas that was bothering them. Some of the companions of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said to him, ‘We find in ourselves thoughts that are too terrible to speak of.’ He said, ‘Are you really having such thoughts?’ They said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘That is a clear sign of faith.’” (Narrated by Muslim). (Narrated by Muslim, 132 from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah).

Al-Nawawi said in his commentary on this hadeeth: “The Prophet’s words, ‘That is a clear sign of faith’ means, the fact that think of this waswaas as something terrible is a clear sign of faith, for if you dare not utter it and you are so afraid of it and of speaking of it, let alone believing it, this is the sign of one who has achieved perfect faith and who is free of doubt.”

And it was said that what it means is that the Shaytaan only whispers to those whom he despairs of tempting, because he is unable to tempt them. As for the kaafir, he can approach him in any manner he wants and is not restricted to waswaas, rather he can play with him however he wants. Based on this, what the hadeeth means is that the cause of waswaas is pure faith, or that waswaas is a sign of pure faith. See also question no. 12315

The fact that you hate that and your heart recoils from it is a clear sign of faith. Waswaas happens to everyone who turns to Allaah by reciting dhikr etc. It is inevitable, but you have to be steadfast and patient, and persevere with your dhikr and prayer, and not give up, because in this way you will ward off the plot of the Shaytaan. “Ever feeble indeed is the plot of Shaytaan” [al-Nisa’ 4:76 – interpretation of the meaning]. Every time a person wants to turn to Allaah, waswaas brings other matters to mind. The Shaytaan is like a bandit: every time a person wants to move towards Allaah, he wants to block the way. Hence when it was said to one of the salaf that the Jews and Christians say, “We do not experience waswaas,” he said, “They are speaking the truth, for what would the Shaytaan do with a house in ruins?”

(From Fataawa Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah, 22/608).

The remedy:

1 – If you feel that you are being affected by this waswaas, say, “Aamantu Billaahi wa Rasoolihi (I believe in Allaah and His Messenger).” It was narrated from ‘Aa’ishah that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The Shaytaan comes to one of you and says, ‘Who created you?’ And he says ‘Allaah.’ Then the Shaytaan says, ‘Who created Allaah?’ If that happens to any one of you, let him say, Aamantu Billaahi wa Rusulihi (I believe in Allaah and His Messenger). Then that will go away from him.”

(Narrated by Ahmad, 25671; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in al-Saheehah, 116).

2 – Try to stop thinking about that as much as possible, and keep busy with things that will distract you from it.

Finally we advise you to keep on turning to Allaah in all situations, and to ask Him for help, and to beseech Him, and to ask Him to make you steadfast until death, and to cause you to die doing righteous deeds… And Allaah knows best.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Mother-out-laws, infidelity and divorce

Wednesday May 27, 2009
Study confirms mothers-in-law are the chief cause of divorces
By YENG AI CHUN

KUALA LUMPUR: Every married person knows it, but a local study has confirmed it – mothers-in-law are the chief cause of divorces, especially in the Indian community.

Data in the Malaysia Community and Family Study 2004 by the National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN) revealed that “meddlesome in-laws” is the number one reason why Indian couples get divorced.

It is also among the top three factors for divorce among the Malays and Chinese. The other two factors are incompatibility (42.3%) and infidelity (12%).

“Interference by in-laws is the main reason for Indians to divorce. It is the top-ranked reason at 30%,” said LPPKN director-general Datuk Aminah Abdul Rahman when presenting a paper on Malaysia’s family profile and its effects at Institut Kefahaman Islam Malaysia yesterday.

Infidelity is the marriage breaker among the Malays and Indians but it is tolerated among the Chinese.

“Among Malays, the second most common reason is infidelity and refusal to put up with polygamy,” she said.

“Among the Indians, infidelity is the second highest ranked reason for divorce at 25%,” she said.

However, the Chinese considered infidelity as the least crucial reason for a divorce.

Cheating was at the bottom along with health and gambling addiction at 4.2%.

Surprisingly, abuse is not a reason for divorce among the Malays and Chinese, but is a reason among Indians at 5%.

“Another overall reason which ranked high among the three races at 11.5% is ‘not being responsible’,” she said.

Although it is common perception that the family institution is quite fragile and divorces are rampant, data shows otherwise - only 0.7% of the population was divorced in 2000.

The data shows that divorce is more likely to happen to those under 25 and above 40.

Meanwhile, Women, Family and Community Development Minister Datuk Seri Shahrizat Abdul Jalil said that more Malaysian women were choosing to marry later in life and it could cause a reduction in fertility rate and an ageing society.

“The National Family Policy and its action plan will address this issue of late marriages,” she said.

The policy would be presented to the Cabinet soon.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

The Myth of Equality

(my professor at California State Univ once told us..."its shameful how the Muslims treat their women..."...and the American students all nodded gravely...I thought it was really funny...how equality was viewed from their standpoint.

  • The Plight of Women Soldiers

    More women have fought and died in Iraq than in all the wars since World War II put together. Yet the US military continues to treat them like second class citizens.

BY HELEN BENEDICT
May 5, 2009

"Nobody believes me when I say I'm a veteran," she said that day, tucking her long red hair behind her ears. "I was in Iraq getting bombed and shot at, but people won't even listen when I say I was at war. You know why? Because I'm a female."

Full story here.