A well-known "unknown" cyber benggali celup (yang actually not benggali) and I were chatting this morning on facebook.
About trust.
Trusting your instincts. Especially in this virtual world. And in real life of course.
I find that my first instincts about a person are ALWAYS correct.
BUT, I often make the mistake of giving the benefit of the doubt to some to even when my first instinct/impression deep in my gut is " I don't really like this person", or "beware". Or "this person is not sincere". Don't let them in.
It usually turns out to be right.
By then, damage done. Caution thrown to wind.
Some people are just like that. I don't analyse a person every's move, word, intent like some perverted watchers I know who exist in the sidelines in this blogosphere. Kalah CIA. Atau Israeli intelligence.
I'm not that shrewd or cunning or clever at pretending to be what I'm not.
What you see is what you get. What I say is what I feel.
Unfortunately, not everyone is like that.
The world is full of pretense.
And insincerity.
Maybe I'm like that too to another. I don't know.
But I certainly do not play on others' miseries or misfortunes for my own benefit.
That much I know is true.
Friday, September 11, 2009
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i got stung when i found out that my ex was living with my friend. he left me n kids because he found someone else that he was crazy in love with and stupid me only found out who the girl was after they have broken off 6 mths later. And guess what , in that whole six mths when they were living together, she continued to see me and have me as a 'best' friend!! Classic case of naivity and betrayal huh?
coming back to your post, i can say i am atrocious in seeing thru a person as i don't believe a person can be bad. i have always live by being soft/kind and thus think that other people behave like that too, can't imagine anything else! But I am wrong aren't I? good day.
(aiyah, "stung" only?...more like kicked in gut lah! hahaha)
hi
thanks for your long reply, like dear marge column pulak. anyway, one of my friends strongly believe that i and the ex kena 'charm' by her as she could see that this 'friend' of mine is trouble/untrusworthy from the start. and i kept ignoring all the 'clues' and coincidences, anyway like i say, i am too naive lah...but whatever it is, when the love is gone, no point forcing it. it's all good now, and i am flying, feels empowered that i am able to carry on ,on my own with two kids,finding myself and making my future.my fam all in msia lah, so you can see the growing that i had to do, being here for 22 yrs helps...no one can help us feel better other than ourselves, so the quicker you can accept the reality, the quicker you move on.
I wonder if this cyber benggali is my brother. Somehow he was like accepted into the fraternity by being able to swear just like his benggali friend, and was given a benggali bangle to wear, too. But that was 30 years ago. Who knows, maybe he still likes to play pretend benggali haha
My vibes don't vibe true most times - maybe I'm too logic-oriented. So I too go with the flow until I hit an obstacle, or whatever.
Zen,
This benggali-pseudo very polite wan...heheh
Man is a selfish animal..am a man myself and so i can feel it !..but what & when will man share his wealth !..after these ?
a sense of responsibility ?
a deep feeling of truth ?
a sensitivity within oneself ?
a sharing attitude ?
All of the above, if you allow me to say. BUT the simple answer is really in ONE's ATTITUDE !!.
With the right attitude, one will always move forward come what may ?!.
So don't second guess who wrote this, BUT "change your attitude", and indeed you are on your way !.
SElamat Malam.
So SAYA, what's Tommy Yew report card look like?? Alls 'Fs'& 'Xs'in your book :((.
When u go thru a day, & the things that people says, makes u feel so smalllll.....
Salam,
Tommy.
Capten,
okay....
Tommy,
You get A lah :)
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